Every time I want Braden to be different, it’s because I am being shown a way that I am not showing up in my life. I want him to be better, so I don’t have to.
I want him to express his anger differently? That’s because I am not satisfied with the way in which I express it (holding it in, usually).
I want him to show more appreciation? That’s because I am forgetting to appreciate him (or myself! That is also a thing).
I want him to hear me? That’s because I lack the ability, at times, to hear him fully, without judgement, and without my defenses going up.
I want him to try new things? To be more productive? To figure out what he wants in his life? Guess what? This is what I actually want for myself.
It’s so much easier to project my shit onto the one I love.
It’s enough already!
He is enough. I am enough. I accept us as we are.
More about this painting HERE.