Those voices in my head were nattering again, and I consciously chose to listen to the quiet one that had something good to say.
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“Send Love” 12″ x 12″
Some days it is difficult to send love to those who need it, because I have my own shit, my own triggers, my own stories. I am getting better at noticing when my needs are not being met, and seeing what I can do to meet those needs, instead of expecting others to meet them. And once I have met those needs, then I am able to send love.
When I feel unlovable, it is often because I simply am not letting love in. I have built up my walls, mistakenly thinking that they will protect me from being hurt, when really, they are just hurting me by keeping love out. These walls build up slowly, sometimes, without me even noticing I am doing it, or quickly, as a defensive reaction.
Here are some ways that I know to keep the walls from building:
When I am paid a compliment, I don’t return it with a compliment. I say thank you, and repeat the words to myself silently. Take it in! Giving compliments helps, too.
Breathing, consciously. I forget this one as easily as I forget that I am breathing. Breathing with awareness brings me to my heart, allowing it to open.
Allowing any glimmers of emotion to surface and be what they will, without shoving them back down.
Dancing! When my body is in flow, walls can’t be built. Pretty straight forward.
Giving myself permission to be vulnerable in my expression of my needs.
Please share any ideas you have to keep an open heart. <3 Click HERE for more about the painting.
Some days it can be very easy for me to depend on my partner to make me happy. I went on a journey today…
…from doing something that made me happy (this involved working on a project that I have been putting off for a long time)…
…to sharing it with my partner…
…to feeling ignored/unheard/unimportant (one leads to another, down a spiral…) when he didn’t respond…
…to choosing to move through that feeling (by painting and simply feeling ignored, and remembering where that trigger comes from)…
…to noticing how my expectations (hoping that he will respond and comment in a positive way)…
…to realizing I am in charge of how I feel.
I am responsible for how I feel.
Any feelings that come up are totally ok, and worth feeling.
Working on projects (rather than procrastinating), and being busy doing things I love, helps me to feel good about myself.
Having expectations around another person’s behavior can lead to disappointment, or trigger other emotions.
I know myself well enough now to see that when I am triggered by unmet expectations, I am better off managing these myself than turning to the person who triggered it in the first place (I don’t want to look to them to “fix” it). This is a tricky one, though, because sometimes I push that to the limit, thinking I have to work things out alone. It’s totally ok to reach out to someone who is not involved in order to feel heard.
Thanks for reading.
The painting is available HERE.
I am so excited and honoured to be featured in (and on the cover of) HeART Journal Magazine! Equally awesome is that I was asked to be in the magazine because I was nominated by the readers! So a huge thank you to the person, or people, who put my name forward!
To celebrate, heART Journal Magazine has a given me a free issue bonus code to share with others so you can get your free issue of heART Journal Magazine today! I am also giving away a one-year subscription to the magazine, and the winner will be randomly chosen on 7/7/2017, because those are cool numbers. Just comment on this post, and you are entered! <3
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Painting goals: have fun, paint more often, care less about how it “should” look, and whether or not it’s “real art”. Definitely a process. <3
Want this one? Just send me a message to magknit[at]telus[dot]net telling me:
1. about something new you’ve tried recently (I just tried rock climbing! What a great way to build trust with a partner, get a good workout, and have fun! Super great date idea!)
2. your offer (feel free to be creative with this one)
“Learning to Love Myself”
9″ x 12″ on linen finish heavy weight paper
The new owner will be chosen tomorrow and contacted by me. Shipping & handling $5 Canada/$10 US.
One of my previously unposted pussy paintings!
<3 Loved", 4" x 6", watercolor on paper Click here for more info.
How have I loved myself today? I don’t always (let’s be honest – I usually don’t) acknowledge the ways that I am showing up for myself. Today I went to the gym! Yay! My body is being celebrated. Today I painted. Yay! My spirit is having fun!
How have you loved yourself today?
More about the painting or purchase HERE.
Back in the early days of our relationship, Braden would say this to me: “I love who I am when I am with you.”
We have had some challenging moments lately, moments where I don’t feel I am being my best self. Saying this expression of self-love is helpful to change the course of my thoughts. I also want to remember to love who I am when I am not with you.
More about this painting HERE.
Every time I want Braden to be different, it’s because I am being shown a way that I am not showing up in my life. I want him to be better, so I don’t have to.
I want him to express his anger differently? That’s because I am not satisfied with the way in which I express it (holding it in, usually).
I want him to show more appreciation? That’s because I am forgetting to appreciate him (or myself! That is also a thing).
I want him to hear me? That’s because I lack the ability, at times, to hear him fully, without judgement, and without my defenses going up.
I want him to try new things? To be more productive? To figure out what he wants in his life? Guess what? This is what I actually want for myself.
It’s so much easier to project my shit onto the one I love.
It’s enough already!
He is enough. I am enough. I accept us as we are.
More about this painting HERE.