When JP and I decided to end our marriage, we forever changed the structure of our family. He is no longer my husband and I am no longer his wife, but our children are still our children, and have become the force that keeps the two of us maintaining some form of familial relationship, albeit an estranged one.
Now that we are separated and our children spend half as much time with me as they did before, I find myself creating a new family structure. The friendships and relationships that were most important to me before our split have become my lifeline. My challenge is to remember that I’m not being “too much” when I ask for support, and to know that I don’t have to go through my rough spots alone. I know my “family” (and my family) is there for me when I need them, and I love and appreciate them for it.