In 2001, when I found out I was pregnant with twins (at 20 weeks into the pregnancy), I felt sad and disappointed. These seemed like strange feelings to have in light of such amazing news, but I had a need to mourn the loss of the life I had planned/forseen/expected. That’s the key, isn’t it? When I hold an expectation of how life will go, I can be easily disappointed when the expectations aren’t met. Once I allowed my feelings to be present, I was able to move through them, into joy and excitement about having two babies at once.
Allow time to mourn the loss of the path that will no longer be taken, if necessary. Notice any emotions arising: perhaps loss, or fear or anger. Let them run their course.