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“Gremlins” – 20″ x 20″ – $190 (plus shipping) for today only. Send me a message at belindafireman[at]gmail[dot]com
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The monsters of perfection slow me down, keep me from doing what I love, tell me to not bother creating things that aren't worthy, and keep me in procrastination-mode. I am grateful to them for keeping me "safe".
What do you do to push past the resistance they create?
This is it. This life is what I’ve got, so it is time to do what I love, and stop worrying about what everyone else thinks of it.
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Some people are worried they aren’t offering “enough”. Don’t let stories of not being enough get in your way. If you want it, and offer from your heart, I will hear you.
6″ x 6″, acrylic on canvas
Those voices in my head were nattering again, and I consciously chose to listen to the quiet one that had something good to say.
A few nights ago, I found myself contracted, and wishing Braden would do more, show me more love, touch me more, and reach out to me, and I realized how my contracted desires are one of the ways I project my story about “not being good enough” onto him. For me to feel more love, I dropped the expectation that Braden would do things for me, and did them for him instead. This simple turn-around opened my heart, and brought us into connection again.
“Open”, 8″ x 8″
Painting available HERE.
Growth: I began writing a text to Braden today, and I deleted it all, because I suddenly saw how I was creating suffering by wanting things to be different.
Instead of pushing my partner to connect with me by communicating his feelings, I really understood today how valid his experience is, and that I can stay out of his stories, and stop projecting my stories onto him. I can allow him to be who he is, love him for who he is, and also know that I can take care of myself in whatever way is necessary (and it doesn’t have to involve him at all).
I am not perfect at this, by any means. But I think that the more I can acknowledge the times that I am able to see how I am growing, the more I am able to grow.
“Growth”, 11″ x 14″
Click HERE.
“Send Love” 12″ x 12″
Some days it is difficult to send love to those who need it, because I have my own shit, my own triggers, my own stories. I am getting better at noticing when my needs are not being met, and seeing what I can do to meet those needs, instead of expecting others to meet them. And once I have met those needs, then I am able to send love.
Available HERE.
“Pleasure” available HERE.
<3 The amount of pleasure my body feels is a barometer for how aligned I am with my soul's desires. There's a quickening, an excitement, and arousal that happens when I am on the right track. The trick is to be aware of how my mind wants to come barging in to destroy the feeling - it is scared, and it'll do anything to stay safe (like telling me that my idea is shit, or about all the problems I will encounter if I try something new, or about how unqualified I actually am to do that thing I am feeling brave enough to do.) I am choosing to actively pursue pleasure.
(click painting for details)
<3 I'm getting it, you guys. I'm feeling fear, and I am sticking around to feel it. I say hello to it and keep going. When it seems like I might be abandoned (the worst), my instinct is to run and hide, but I don't (mostly... this is definitely not a perfect process). I still have a lot to learn, I'm sure. But I feel like there is progress. Yay. A reminder to myself: this doesn't mean fear will go away. It will likely keep coming back to test me, again and again. How I deal with it will keep changing (hopefully), as I grow and learn new things. Growth on a spiral, not a straight line. (Thanks, Tymothy Roy) What progress have you noticed?
When I feel unlovable, it is often because I simply am not letting love in. I have built up my walls, mistakenly thinking that they will protect me from being hurt, when really, they are just hurting me by keeping love out. These walls build up slowly, sometimes, without me even noticing I am doing it, or quickly, as a defensive reaction.
Here are some ways that I know to keep the walls from building:
When I am paid a compliment, I don’t return it with a compliment. I say thank you, and repeat the words to myself silently. Take it in! Giving compliments helps, too.
Breathing, consciously. I forget this one as easily as I forget that I am breathing. Breathing with awareness brings me to my heart, allowing it to open.
Allowing any glimmers of emotion to surface and be what they will, without shoving them back down.
Dancing! When my body is in flow, walls can’t be built. Pretty straight forward.
Giving myself permission to be vulnerable in my expression of my needs.
Please share any ideas you have to keep an open heart. <3 Click HERE for more about the painting.
Some days it can be very easy for me to depend on my partner to make me happy. I went on a journey today…
…from doing something that made me happy (this involved working on a project that I have been putting off for a long time)…
…to sharing it with my partner…
…to feeling ignored/unheard/unimportant (one leads to another, down a spiral…) when he didn’t respond…
…to choosing to move through that feeling (by painting and simply feeling ignored, and remembering where that trigger comes from)…
…to noticing how my expectations (hoping that he will respond and comment in a positive way)…
…to realizing I am in charge of how I feel.
Today’s Lessons!
I am responsible for how I feel.
Any feelings that come up are totally ok, and worth feeling.
Working on projects (rather than procrastinating), and being busy doing things I love, helps me to feel good about myself.
Having expectations around another person’s behavior can lead to disappointment, or trigger other emotions.
I know myself well enough now to see that when I am triggered by unmet expectations, I am better off managing these myself than turning to the person who triggered it in the first place (I don’t want to look to them to “fix” it). This is a tricky one, though, because sometimes I push that to the limit, thinking I have to work things out alone. It’s totally ok to reach out to someone who is not involved in order to feel heard.
Thanks for reading.
xo
The painting is available HERE.